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Thursday, 20 August 2015

Useful Tips - Your Problems???

" Everyday, many people approaches me with different type of problems to be solve including LOVE, MONEY, SOME SEEKING FOR BETTER LIFE and ...etc...

Your problems eventually became part of mine..

By using magical items with positive energy to help you is one of the solution, however cultivating the right attitude and mindset of facing your problems in life is more crucial to fix all the problems in your life~

Sharing Of Another Useful Tips For You To Enhance Your Life As A Whole~"



OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF PROBLEMS


This is the real point, to overcome the aversion, the fear of problems.
Now, how do we do that?
First of all, we contemplate the uselessness of seeing problems as unfavourable, of having anxiety and worry as problems arise. It is useless because our worry and our anxiety do not address or resolve the problem.

I think I made the point last time that a lot of us believe our happiness or unhappiness is out of our control. It has something to do with the outside world. Something to do with the food I eat, or the way I sleep, you know. Or what other people do or say or think.

We do not realize that anxiety and worry are subjective states of mind that we can deal with. We do not have to maintain them to be manifest in our minds.

A very simple approach was mentioned by Shantideva, that when we recognize that we are worrying, our mind is upset about some- thing. The great danger is not the problem that made us upset. The great danger is being upset, because that makes us habitually miser- able. This is really the essence. Realize that if anything is going to hurt me, it is my very own misery that is going to hurt me, because that creates the environment for more misery.

TWO WAYS TO APPROACH PROBLEMS

If we recognize that we are upset, we can apply Shantideva’s simple approach. And we think about what is it that is upsetting us. We think, can this problem be resolved? And if that which is upsetting us can be resolved, then we ask ourselves, “Why are you upset? Why be miserable? It can be resolved, and if you just wallow in pity and misery, you are a fool!”
That is what we say to ourselves, we say to our mind, to our self- cherishing thought. We say, “Mind, you are crazy!”

Other people will say we are crazy if they see us talking to our- selves. We say, “Mind, you are absolutely crazy. You are a masochist.

You are hurting yourself. You are being upset and miserable about this problem which can be resolved.”

So what if the answer came, “The problem cannot be resolved. The problem is irreversible.” The answer is the same. We say, “Mind, why are you miserable? Your self-pity, your misery is only com-pounding the problem. It has happened. It cannot be reversed. If you continue to be miserable, you are pouring salt into the wound, you are creating a dangerous situation where you can be hurt much more.” It is like you are an exposed wound, you are terribly sensi- tive. The slightest thing going wrong now is going to make you suffer enormously.
And is that not true?

You know, when we are unhappy, the slightest thing to go wrong in our lives makes it seem so much worse. We experience great mis-ery and emotional upset.

On the other hand, if our mind is happy, then problems are not even noticed. The small things that would have upset us when we are down are not even noticed as problems when we are happy.

So, again, this emphasizes the subjective responsibility in whether we are happy or not, and also the opportunity that we can train our mind.

The first point is that we are trying to overcome the mind that sees worry and anxiety and misery, seeing problems as undesirable.

We are trying to overcome that.
And so, the first is seeing the uselessness of misery, and then thegreat harm.
 Second is seeing the great harm, seeing things as really bad, seeing problems as problems, as being unfavourable. Anxiety saps our strength of mind. As I have already begun to mention this point, when our strength of mind is depleted by anxiety, then suffering arises very frequently in our mind. On the other hand, if we do not see them as heavy problems, we can bear things easily.

Tenbel Nyima says, “Because of anxiety, you are ceaselessly op- pressed by unhappy feelings and even small sufferings are intolerable.”

NOT DWELLING ON PROBLEMS


He gives an example. When we are meditating, we try to block out the sensory world. We find a quiet place, and sit down and meditate and not be distracted by sounds, sights, smells and so on.

If we allow our minds to be aware of noises and other distrac- tions, it is impossible to generate concentration. Similarly, if we allow our minds to dwell on the characteristics of suffering, then we will never be able to dwell in peace.

It is very much the nature of our mind to dwell on problems. Even if we try to sit and meditate, very often we bring up a problem.

Maybe we have not actually been thinking about it. But when we meditate and relive the situation, relive the argument, again and again, and try to think of something better to say, or something hurtful to say. And we suffer. We may start crying.

We might have a problem, which we put out of our mind during the day when we were at work. At work, while this problem is out of our mind, we are okay. We are communicating, we are laughing, we are joking because we have put it out of our mind. But then, when we are alone the problem comes back, and we start crying.

Now, is it the problem coming back? Not at all.
The problem happened last week, last year, 10 years ago. But if we allow our minds to reflect upon it the tears come, the sorrow comes. It is not the problem that is causing the tears. It is our mind not letting go. It is our mind reliving and abiding in the sorrow, in the unhappiness.
As long as we do that, we will never be free. We must gain the courage to get on with life, to see things or deal with life in the present moment and to deal with the new situations in life.

If we allow ourselves to be unhappy because of past events, we will not be able to experience much happiness. Our capacity to enjoy the present moment is severely impaired.

Because it is psychological, there is the opportunity to change it.

If we had really enjoyed running or walking, for example, and we lost our legs... all right, then it is difficult to experience the joy of running or walking without legs. But that is physical.

But a suffering mind is self-inflicted pain. Perhaps we used to enjoy the company of our children, of our family. And now, we can- not enjoy them because we are unable to let go of the sorrow of some- thing else.

That happens so often. We can free ourselves. We must free our- selves, and not only to be able to experience happiness. That is not even the motivation. The reason is to maintain our mind in a pos- itive state, to practise Dharma. So what we do now is develop the attitude of being happy when problems arise. All right?

DEVELOPING AN ATTITUDE
OF HAPPINESS WHEN PROBLEMS ARISE


The conversation, up until now, has been about the first main point of abandoning the thought that sees problems as problems, that has anxiety and aversion to problems. Aversion to problems is of no value. That is the essence of what we have been trying to establish up to this point.
To support that, the next point is to develop the attitude of being
happy that problems arise. Tenbel Nyima says that we should practise cultivating joy by considering suffering as an aid to the Path.

That is the essence: That whatever occurs in our life can assist us in spiritual growth, in developing our minds positively on the Path.

Therefore, we can genuinely gain happiness when so-called problems arise, because they are useful opportunities to work on our minds. And our minds are the very substance of our spiritual Path.

A spiritual practitioner is like a sculptor who begins with a block of marble. Michaelangelo turned shapeless blocks into magnificent sculpture. So, similarly, our minds are spiritually ugly. Spiritually, they have sharp edges, and are unpleasant.

The spiritual Path is to make our minds so beautiful that joy will arise in the hearts of whoever looks at us, whoever thinks of us, who- ever hears our name.

We try to make our bodies beautiful. The advertisements on TV show that we spend a lot of money trying to be physically beautiful.

We try and try again, but it is a difficult process. Anyway, as we get older we cannot retain beauty in our bodies, no matter what we do.

But our minds are different. Our minds can be sculpted, changed, and made so beautiful that they can become objects of pleasure for all beings in the universe. Even when we become old.

Just as when people look at a very attractive person, they feel very happy, then immeasurably more so, when they see somebody whose mind is subdued, whose mind is one-ness with loving-kind- ness, compassion and wisdom. That brings continuing delight and inspiration for themselves to transform their minds.

We are limited with what we can do with our bodies. But there is no limitation with what we can do with our minds. We must be convinced there is no limitation. We can achieve full Buddhahood.

All sentient beings can. And we must, to fulfil our obligations to all beings who have been our mothers. We must be the sculptor who transforms our minds.



" Credits To The Original Sources. Extracted Parts Of The Book From Transforming Problems Into The Path by Thubten Gyatso "

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